Tailored Events Trend Alert!

With wedding season in full swing, I thought I’d share a few of my favorite trends for 2018 to give you a little inspo as you plan your day. Below are my top three trends to follow to take your wedding to the next, trendy level (without being trite or tacky!).

 

Talk Dusty to Me

Okay, I get it. The word “dusty” isn’t the ideal word you want to use to describe your wedding style. But, we’re not talking “dusty” like dirty or dingy—we’re talking muted, pastel, and neutral. From dusty rose to dusty blue, using one of these mellow hues not only shows your keen eye to current wedding trends, it also gives your event an elevated, classic feel while using actual colors. Gone are the days where “elegant” and “classy” wedding styles mean only using black and white and neutral hues. You can still incorporate color and keep the vibe elevated and understated. Plus, by using a muted tone for bridesmaids, groomsmen, and place settings, you can really play up your floral accents in more vibrant shades without it feeling circus-y or rainbow-y.

Hoop! There it is.

Speaking of florals, my second favorite trend are floral hoops. *insert all the heart eyes here*. I love these hoops for many reasons: they’re a great filler for a backdrop, they add visual interest to blank spaces, and they can easily be done DIY-style. Personally, I love a mix of varying sizes hanging at various lengths. You can hang these from an arch or arbor, suspend them behind your head table, or even use them instead bridesmaids’ bouquets for an extra-trendy, cost-effective alternative. My tip? Use a mix of florals and greenery to add depth and interest. The less matchy, the better!

Go Geo

If geometric shapes are wrong, I certainly don’t want to be right! We’re seeing lots of gilded geometric accents popping up all over the wedding world, and I can’t get enough of it! For me, I love to mix styles, especially romantic and frilly with modern and edgy—geometric pieces are the perfect, subtle way to add a little modern flare to your soiree. Centerpiece idea: alternate your tables with geometric-shaped tealight holders around low floral arrangements and geometric terrariums filled with either greenery, flowers, or pillar candles. The variation keeps the aesthetic interesting, and using touches of geometry throughout the event keeps the look consistent.

 

In 2018, weddings are definitely pushing the style envelope, and I am so on board! No matter your style, you can tastefully incorporate any (or all) of these three trends for an in-style, yet still perfectly “you” vibe. Need help melding your style with these fun, modern elements? Call #yourbridalbff for a style consultation! We can make your wedding WOW-worthy while still reflecting your personal look—just ask me how!


The "B" Word

Budget—the fated “b-word” of the wedding world. Clients hate talking about it, vendors hate asking about it, and everyone hates thinking about it. Right?

It’s high time we shake off that begrudging attitude about budget and start getting real! Your budget is the linchpin in the whole wedding orchestration, and you shouldn’t feel awkward about it! No matter your budget, you can have a beautiful, personal wedding—but you have to talk about it to make it happen.

The first thing I do when I meet prospective clients is ask them if they have a budget. If you’ve ever reached out to a vendor, you’ll probably say the say is true for them. It seems like a pointed question, especially in the South where proper manners reign supreme, but it’s really not a taboo subject—it’s the most necessary one to discuss! Not only does it dictate your choices, it also allows you to say within your margin of financial reason.

“But, what if I don’t have a set budget yet?” I knew you’d ask that—I get that question often! If you don’t have an overall budget set, don’t stress! Part of my job is helping you to create a budget, stick to it, and still get the wedding you envision.

 

Here are my go-to guidelines when determining a budget:

Decide your top 3 most important aspects of your wedding. Is it a downtown, urban location? Is it a five-course plated dinner? Is over-the-top floral centerpieces? Whatever is most important to you and your betrothed will guide the planning of your entire event—and these are the things you should prioritize!

Have conversations with any parties who may possibly contribute financially. It’s 2018—(nearly) gone are the days of the bride’s family paying for entire soirees. Modern brides and grooms have many helping hands, so talk to yours and see how much they’re able to contribute, or what specifically they might want to pay for.

Determine your personal contributions. Lots of couples pay for parts of their weddings, some more or less than others. Talk to your sweetie about your personal contributions toward the big day and factor that into your wedding fund.

Learn about the average market costs for wedding services. Each year, The Knot publishes a helpful article on the national average wedding costs for the year prior. Here, you can see how much most couples spend on which items. See the 2017 guide hereKeep in mind, regional prices, especially in the South, are typically lower than national averages.

Consult the professionals. A great one-stop-shop to get an idea of costs in your area is a local wedding planner (like me!). We work in local markets daily, and can speak to spending trends, as well as advise on vendors who may fit your budget best. If you’re not quite ready to meet with a planner, consider asking your professional vendors what their couples spend for their services on average for your type of wedding (size, location, etc.). Most vendors are happy to give you a ballpark estimate and further discuss how they can meet your needs.

 

Money may be the last subject anyone wants to talk about, but following my go-to guidelines will help alleviate some of that anxiety and provide you with small, tangible, practical steps to get the budget ball rolling.

Need to talk budget? Drop me a line at hello@tailoredevents.co and let’s crunch some numbers together!


#notmybridesmaid

Picture this: you’re newly engaged, basking in all the social media glory, still teary-eyed looking at the rock on your left hand. You’re getting double-taps and comments like there’s no tomorrow, and you’re all “YAS, I AM THE BRIDE QUEEN, Y’ALL!”. You with me? Good.

Then, imagine that Kayla, your second cousin on your mom’s side—you know, the one who you played with that one summer at Granny’s but then never talked to much again aside from the occasional family gathering—comments, and is all “Hey, Cuz! Congrats! Can’t wait to be part of the big day! #bridesmaids4ever”. You melt. Your joyful, newly-engaged, rosy cheeks fade to ghost-white as your sweet momma says “Well, isn’t that nice of Kayla! She’ll fit right in as a bridesmaid—her complexion is good too so you can put her in any color and she won’t look dead!” Enter obligation: the joy-killer to the wedding-planning bride.

You don’t dislike Kayla, you just don’t know Kayla. But, your mom and her sister, Aunt Sharon, are fully expecting you to include Kayla in the wedding. Heck, Kayla is expecting it, too. So, what do you do? Not including her might cause a familial rift that rivals 1998’s family reunion tug-o-war debacle. But, if you include her, that means you have to either bump a close friend or have a huge bridal party. There is no one-size-fits-all solution here (sorry, y’all), but in my experience, here are some tips to un-obilgate yourself to Kayla and still keep the peace:

Tip #1: Be honest. Yes, I know the “h” word is scary, especially when others’ feelings are involved, but by being honest with your momma first, she and others will be able to sympathize with your position. In a tactful way, simply tell your mom, “Mom, I know you and Aunt Sharon are close and while I have nothing against Kayla, I’d prefer to reserve my bridal party for the girls I’m closest with.”

Tip #2: Find a job for Kayla to have at the wedding. Whether attending the guest book/gift table or cutting the cake, there are always extra jobs waiting to be filled by your “obligatory inclusions” (i.e. extended family). As your wedding planner, I can find a spot for any extraneous cousin, aunt, uncle that you throw my way.

Tip #3: Talk to Kayla. Again, #awkward, but if she feels entitled to being in the wedding—or if she’s been told to expect it—then she’s already feeling the pressure. Send her a message or give her a quick call to say, “Hey, Kayla! I just wanted to say thanks for being so excited and supportive of our big day—it really means a lot! I also wanted to let you know that while I’d love to include all my friends and family in the bridal party, I’m opting to keep the group smaller and limited to my sisters and closest friends. However, I’d love for you to be part of our day in another way, if you’re open to it!” This way, you rid yourself of the obligation of including her while also offering to keep her involved.

Bottom line: be honest, be kind, be straightforward. Your wedding should be spent how you want and with whom you want, and explaining this to others in a sensitive manner is totally possible!